Unfuck yourself – Gary John Bishop
The book unfuck yourself is probably pretty common among students of tiimiakatemia. The book has seven “steps” to help you stop procrastinating and get up and improve your life. What is stopping you from improving your life? Are you satisfied with your life as it is? Are willing to go the extra mile to get where you want to be? These are all good questions straight from the book.
This book really hit close to home this is probably a subject that a lot of people deal with on a daily basis. Why is it so hard to get out of your old negative routines that don’t lead you anywhere? If I knew the answer I would tell you.
Thoughts that came up listening to the book
One of the hardest things to improve your life is starting with the seemingly impossible little tasks. Why are there so many of them? As mentioned in the book people always build up certain tasks in their minds. “This is too hard, I cant do this etc”. As we all know once we start them they aren’t as bad as we made them out to be. A lot of the times people get overwhelmed with the amount of tasks they have to complete and that discourages a lot of people including myself. Self-talk also plays a large part in this people tell themselves they can’t do it or its too hard and usually just end up falling back in their old routines. It’s easy to say that you will change and that you are willing to change, but actually doing it day by day is different. I know that I myself do this all the time. I know I can hype myself up on these sort of things but I think what comes down to is that there is no compelling need to do it. My life isn’t actually that bad I enjoy it and sure it could always be improved I just need to find a driving factor that will help me when to going gets rough. One of these “experiments” I have been doing lately is systematically going to the gym 5-6 times a week. Which is hard having basketball practices 4 times a week. My driving motivator in this is definitely my fucked up knee. I tore my ACL in 2016 and after the surgery which took place a month after I tore it, it’s always been kind of off. Being my weight but still being fast and athletic takes a toll on my knee. This is why I have to build muscle around it. I could not stand the fact that I couldn’t run or play basketball anymore. It is not an option. It has been easy keeping up with schedule, because it just couldn’t tear again that would be it for basketball. Another that might discourage people is other peoples views on your situation. Other people could discourage you and tell you that you can’t do it. Blocking out all other views on your life is a start. You have to determine what you want to achieve or what you want to do, no one else can tell you that. Making up excuses defines where you are and doesn’t compel you to go where you want to be. And I think the BIGGEST problem that most people have is “ I will do it tomorrow”. It’s an endless loop that keeps going and going. Until you actually take the first steps to make it happen it will never happen. Moving on, you have taken your first steps , let’s have an example for instance going to the gym. I don’t know these people but I know they exist, people who think going for a 5 mile run once or lifting at the gym a week will get them where they want to be. NO, it is an endless exhausting, gruesome and painful experience which you have to work on tirelessly day in day out. I’m kidding its not gruesome and painful or it might be I really don’t know how you work out. But it is an ongoing project it does not happen overnight. I think this same method could be implied to pretty much just about anything. If u want to succeed don’t try it once. Crave failure, crave the mistakes, crave the little victories, crave the endless hours that is what makes so much sweeter when you finally make it. I don’t actually know this for a fact but it’s how I imagine it. People most often than not tend to live in the past and not in the future. The book also has a valuable piece of advice, actually quite a lot but one that really stuck out for me. Gary tells us how successful people never came up with excuses they just did it, putting in the hours going the extra mile. Not waiting for the right circumstances or the right time or being in the right place.
I’m going to try and take as much as possible from this book and improve my habits and my overall mindset. I will probably come back to this book when I’m feeling discouraged or just need a little boost. If u haven’t read this book you should and you should also read The power of habit by Charles Duhigg and Mindset by Carol S. Dweck.